The Identity Wave · High family-self gap
The Family Costume
Around your family of origin, you become an older version of yourself — patterns you thought you'd outgrown reappear.
The dimensional signature
Work
30
Family
90
Romance
40
Friends
35
What this type means
The Family-Costume reverts to childhood-self when with family of origin — competent professional becomes the kid who hides in their old bedroom. Extremely common; usually a signal of unresolved family-of-origin material.
In relationships
Visits home are time travel. Your current adult self gets replaced by a teenager you barely recognize. The gap between who you are now and who you become there is jarring.
Watch for
Most "regression at home" is involuntary. You don't choose to revert; the family system pulls you back to your old role. Knowing this is half the work.
The growth edge
Before family visits, decide one piece of current-self you'll keep intact. A boundary, a way of speaking, a refusal. One stake in the ground prevents full regression.
Are you The Family Costume?
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